I am planning a three-week remote work period in Southern Europe. This process fills me with conflicting emotions. Like many parents, I balance between guilt and self-worth. I want to share my thoughts and experiences with you, hoping to inspire others to believe in their dreams and dare to achieve them.
Guilt and Is It Justified?
First of all, the well-being of my children is always a priority. When they were younger, I was away for only a few days at a time. I arranged everything: cupboards full of food, backup care in place, and still found myself handling family matters remotely. This brought feelings of unfairness in sharing responsibilities.
Now the situation is different. My children are older: one is an adult living at home, and the other is a smart high schooler. I trust them completely and know they will manage. But the feeling of guilt remains. Is it right to go to Southern Europe and leave them in the November slush? Am I burdening them by not managing the household? What if the high schooler needs help with math homework?
I Deserve This Experience Because…
Given my age, it’s time to fulfill my dreams while I still can. I also want to show my children that dreams can be achieved with persistence. Dreams don’t come true by waiting but by doing.
When I return home, I want to be an energetic mom, not a November grump exhausted by daily routines. I’ve saved the travel money and handled all practical arrangements. This trip is not a whim but a well-thought-out decision.
I have spent nearly 20 years managing family life without compensation. Has this time been educational and rewarding? Yes. But it has also been exhausting, and I believe I have earned this moment for myself. I no longer want to live a “someday” life but to take action now.
You Deserve to Reach Your Goals too
Every parent knows balancing family and personal needs is challenging. Guilt is a natural part of this process, but it shouldn’t stop us from achieving our dreams. Pursuing dreams requires courage and the belief that we deserve these moments for ourselves.
If you are in a similar situation, I encourage you to take that step towards your dreams. Show your children that personal dreams are important and pursuing them is valuable. When are responsible of taking care of ourselves.
So, I am heading to Southern Europe for three weeks this Autumn. I feel guilty, but I also feel joy and freedom. This is my moment. I hope it inspires you to take a step towards your own dreams.
